I know alot of people are in open marriages or just having sex with others, but how do you overcome a jealous spouse? I can play with woman, but no man. Love hubby, but just want to explore..is this just a mid life crisis thing?

again . jealousy is a very strong emotion and a side effect of strong love ......once present I feel there is no way to "overcome" it , talking may help but asking on a sex site will bring opinions and maybe some one has a solution but as I say when emotions are involved I feel you have a long uphill battle !!

Thanks...I was afraid of that. It is just so hard seeing everyone fullfill fantasies...

fulfilling as i how Jen ?? i am not sure i'd take everything you hear here as full truth . also see where that gets them down the road in the future .......and last sometime fantasies are the best and living them in the safety and security of ones mind is just as good .......talk to your husband and see if he would be content to let you have a horny pen pal .....one that emails you stories and scenes of love making ...and let him read those as well ....include him ...maybe he will see things different and you can progress on from there !!

Thanks for the reply...maybe you can be pen pal..love to share stories!

i'd love that !! I love sharing and hearing sexual experiences and how they shaped how we are today . also love hearing fantasies and ideas, sexy thoughts and very inquisitive hearing and ladies point of view lust, loves thoughts and desires !! I also do love writing erotic stories , inserting people like yourself into scenes or situations many times of their choice as well !! sell_man@hotmail.ca and we can chat if you like

do you do private messages on the site?

i can only receive!! if the conversation is naughty enough I can handle one sided LOL ....no it regress unfortunately not as I always feel I have lots to say and contribute to fun and frolic !

Jen...if you need a pen pal I'd gladly volunteer

You might convince spouse to try to fulfill your fantasy in a role playing scenario.
Meet at a bar as strangers and play as two different people from your normal. Maybe he blindfolds you and pretends to be someone you are attracted to. Maybe if he sees your reaction as arousing without feeling like you want someone else forever, he may begin to see the turnon you get. Eventually maybe he will go along.

Jen I see a lot of good advise given to you here. I wish I had Luvladies ways with words. Fantasies are great but my advise is to never do anything behind his back. Once something happens it can never be fully undone. I do not know about the mid life thing because sometimes it starts and a much earlier age and may never go away...... Pm me anytime

your words are fine exclave, and thanks for appreciating mine. great advise !! we need honesty openness and respect , sex and love have a very rough, bitter and angry side and we all need to avoid it going there !! have fun enjoy cheers !!

A lot of good advice...thanks to all who replied. I no longer PM as my membership has run out. I see a lot of the people I talked with left. Sad...even VanessaB has left.

Might try some role playing, done the bar pickup thing. Any other ideas for role playing, beside the student teacher and slutty nurse!

consider the landlord collecting the rent but you do not have the money. Go take a naked ride in the car with the hubby and see what comes up.........Towel drop for the delivery guy.....

How about answering the door for the UPS guy......naked...,...I'll deliver...LOL..xxxx

or a variation on naked ....in a towel and as you hand here the board to sign the towel falls to the floor and she could care less !!
some good/bad lines...
-- "now you have my special "delivery"'.........a bit corny LOL
-- "oh goodie, I have been waiting so long for this package .....this company makes the best sex toys"
--you have anything else you want me to "sign"

Role play suggestion:

How about the demanding boss who insists on overtime work after everyone else has left for the day. Of course you can’t say no because you need to keep the job. The role of the demanding boss can be played by either a male or female ;) I don’t know about everyone else but I think office sex is hot!!

Ms. Bare has called out my number one fantasy as well. Whether as a sexy secretary or a fresh-faced job interviewee, the image of being taken by a powerful executive (man or woman) across a massive office desk always leaves me dripping wet. The backdrop of a modern, floor-to-ceiling glass corner office in a skyscraper only enhances the exhibitionist tendencies. Still cannot resist a seductive wink to my husband whenever I visit him at work. His knowing smile in return is the best foreplay. Just too bad the business trend is moving away from sturdy office furniture.

I think Ms Bare hit a homer on the office sex !!I am sure a huge majority of us work and quite likely work with someone you fantasize over. it may not be an actual fellow employee/boss, it could be a customer of the business, a supplier/contractor, courier person, mailman, delivery guy or maybe for sure the wife/husband/son/daughter/friend/relative of a fellow employee !! one can easily portrait these or maybe come up with so many more possibilities depending on your job or maybe even make up the whole office /workplace scene with your partner and it does not even have to be your actual workplace!
sex at work is also so taboo as well and could bring so many consequences! but the rush is so real !!!
who has not dreamt of sex on your desk or co workers desk , or ..gasp ...sex on the lunch room table or someone else's chair !!
to role play would be high on a lot of peoples lists I am sure and could easily be done and enjoyed !!
I do love the fact a demanding female boss desires me and wants me to stay late to "help" her !!

Yes indeed Ms. Bare...Office Sex...after hours....."Meet me in the copy room...darling I need those copied and ready for the morning board meeting....we will just have to stay.....late....mmmmmm...